St Francis 30for30: ‘You don’t go in there and die, you go in there and get support’
16:04 16 June 2014
“I knew nothing about the hospice before this happened. You hear ‘hospice’ and you think it’s somewhere people go to die - but it’s so much more than that.”
Chris Nugent from Hornchurch isn’t exactly the kind of person you’d imagine benefiting from hospice support. As a healthy 68-year-old with a husband whose cancer is happily in remission, you might think a hospice and its connotations would be something she’d want to steer clear of.
But Saint Francis Hospice – somewhere Chris describes as “jolly” – isn’t just about end-of-life care.
Chris goes to the monthly carers’ drop-in session, mostly “for emotional support” – though, she adds, “listening to other carers, my situation is really easy”.
Her husband, who is recovering from pancreatic cancer, visits more regularly – once a week.
“Mike goes to the hospice day unit weekly for a social morning with others in his situation, and lunch.
“He can have massage, reflexology and other alternative therapies if he wishes, and also occupational therapy.
“He does painting while others make cards and do silk scarf painting, et cetera.”
Chris adds: “It’s great – he looks forward to it.
“You don’t go in there and die, you go in there and get support - it’s a much jollier place than you think.”
Collier Row pensioner Beverley Simmonds relies a lot more heavily on support from the hospice – but like Chris she’s full of praise for the Havering-atte-Bower centre.
Caring for husband Michael, 69, involves helping him get up in the mornings and driving him around.
“Virtually everything has changed” since he was diagnosed three years ago with Multiple System Atrophy, a condition Beverley describes as “Parkinson’s with extras”.
“He’s losing his voice - he was always a chatterbox so that frustrates him,” she says.
“He can’t drive anymore so I have to drive everywhere. It’s not quite the same.
“We used to love our holidays. We can’t go on holidays any more – he doesn’t like to be too far from home.”
Again, the support provided by the hospice goes far further than you might expect.
“They really do see that if they look after the carers, there’s somebody to look after the patient,” she says.
“I’ve got nothing but praise for them.”
Both Beverley and Chris reserve special praise for hospice staff Briony Townsend and Sandy Lawless, who run the carers’ drop-in sessions they find so helpful.
Nobody wants to be in a situation where they have to turn to hospice care, but Saint Francis Hospice can be there to offer support - in more ways than you might imagine.
Beverley sums it up: “It’s tough, but Saint Francis are very good.”
• Last week (June 9-15) was Carers Week, a seven-day campaign aimed at raising awareness about the lives of carers.